i noticed that a lot of people can’t handle even sitting in silence for 1-2 minutes. it makes them very uncomfortable. people with nothing going for themselves really just LOVE talking. any moment of silence has to filled up by their voice and mostly useless thoughts. you can’t unlock anything new about yourself and the world if you’re always talking.

this is probably the result of an overstimulated society that doesn’t know how to exist in silence. its quite sad we have replaced silent, calm, and reflective lives for noisy, always on, and quite mediocre environments produced by mostly: people who can’t shut up to think for even just a minute.

not only that, but they love repeating the same topics and stories over and over when they can’t find a new topic to fill their silence. it is actually quite fascinating. these types of people are really dangerous - because they are distracted and they won’t let anyone around them who is actually serious about life, focus…

every time they see you reflecting or focusing on something great, they will find a way to interrupt, distract, or misguide. if you’re not highly aware of other people’s behavior and their intentions and their own insecurities, you will be swept up in their mediocre tornado.

i also realized they love trying to control the uncontrollables. worrying about the news and what some random driver did on the road or something a stranger posted or their opinion on X,Y,Z. more people should realize they don’t need to have an opinion about everything, should focus more on their own business instead of spending hours talking about others, should look inward before gossiping and should seriously take a step back and assess how pathetic it is to spend hours talking about another persons life (whether good things or bad things) and not focusing on their own inner and outer growth. all you should do is control the controllables and worry about things that make sense for you to be worrying about. in other words: mind your business!

don’t even get started on the performative intellectual conversations. complete waste of time. people love to sound smart. they love to sound introspective. but slowly you realize you’ve just wasted 3 hours going in circles having a discussion with someone who has so interest in learning and all interest in sounding intelligent. i’ve definitely been guilty of this and only realized recently how this feels really productive until you’ve had enough of these convos to be like wait a minute.

all of these traits converge into two things: detachment from your own soul and a mediocre life

you don’t need to give your opinion on everything.

you don’t need to talk about other people.

you don’t need to try to make yourself feel okay with your own choices by subjecting others to hearing about it over and over and over

you don’t need to try to justify the lack of agency and ownership you have by victimizing yourself and repeating over and over how much of a victim you are.

people who have actually gone through and overcome trials and tribulations in life don’t spend their days talking about useless topics and victimizing themselves and looking to others to validate their trauma. the other thing i realized is a lot of people really think they are the main character. they’ll be like “i’ve gone through X, Y, Z and you don’t understand…” as if they even know all of the things i’ve been through in my life. you never know what another person has experienced. empathy is in short supply because people are too focused on being the main character